Anger Issues

I specialize in helping individuals manage and understand their anger. Through compassionate and tailored therapeutic approaches, I support clients in developing healthier ways to express and cope with their emotions, fostering personal growth and improved well-being.

I work with individuals to understand the myths about anger, to break the anger habit, to learn how to monitor and manage anger, to identify events that trigger anger and to develop strategies to prevent anger.

I view anger as a secondary emotion. Underneath that rage is fear and sorrow waiting to be expressed. My work with clients involves welcoming the anger and then asking, "what important part of myself is this anger trying to protect."

I can help by providing you with the specific tools needed to overcome your pain. Asking for help can be hard, and at the same time it is the first step toward regaining control of your life.

"I'm just a soul whose intentions are good Oh lord, please don't let me be misunderstood." ― The Animals, 1965 “Anger is a valid emotion. It's only bad when it takes control and makes you do things you don't want to do.” ― Ellen Hopkins, Fallout “When angry, count four. When very angry, swear.” ― Mark Twain

Anger is a powerful emotion AND it's an energy we feel strongly in our bodies. The feeling of anger can often tell us that something isn't right in the current moment. It may also be the result of unmet needs that culminated in feelings of anger for you as a young child. When unaddressed, this anger continues into adulthood. There are many ways that anger can be addressed - through changing thoughts & beliefs, learning to express feelings & needs and more.

Anger is often a trap that becomes too familiar and habitual. But anger is also a great motivator that helps us move mountains. How to find the golden mean where it is not dangerous, but empowers us to get things done? Mindfulness is a uniquely useful method for developing self-awareness whenever anger arises. Learning my individual anger triggers and cues is a good way to begin understanding how to shape my anger into the engine that creates better relationships and a joyful life.

I help clients learn better ways to handle difficult emotions and feelings.

Many individuals may be unaware that anger serves as a messenger emotion. Anger is a primary emotion that encompasses various subsystems of emotions. Metaphorically, anger is a vehicle transporting other emotions that are driving your anger. There are a multitude of reasons that can trigger anger; however, therapy can equip you with valuable techniques to gain a deeper understanding of the underlying causes driving your anger.

I created an anger management program when I was working for the DoD and helping Soldiers with domestic abuse, PTSD, and anger control issues. You have to be willing to admit that you have a problem before you can start working on the problem. I am direct and will confront you and will hold you accountable. I don't shy away, get my feelings hurt, and I don't give up on my clients. I don't have a problem when my client's curse or use foul language. Its okay to just tell it like it is!

Anger is a normal human emotion that warns us that something is being done to us that is threatening, unjust, or gets in the way of getting our needs met. Of course, we can become angry at ourselves for a variety of reasons. Anger by nature is not a “problem” nor does it always require “anger management.” Unfortunately, for many people, anger can become a problem . I help people for whom anger has become a problem through developing behavioral and emotional self-awareness, understanding about triggers and underlying causes, and effective coping skills (aka “tools”) that can help them manage their anger reactions in more constructive ways.

My experience in this area include, creating, and running an anger-management group in an acute partial hospitalization program. Furthermore, I co-developed an anger-management curriculum for justice involved youth in Bergen county.

Angry people are often misunderstood. I know the regret and shame that can come after losing your temper, yet again. While anger can bring out the worst parts of us that we usually like to keep hidden, it can also feel good to know that it keeps people from taking advantage or messing with us. Let's try to tame that anger so it feels like you're more in control of it, rather than the other way around.

When you’re triggered, the “thinking” part of your brain shuts down, the fight or flight response takes over, and you react in explosive, self-defeating and harmful ways. Guess what; it’s not your fault. You didn’t choose to be triggered, did you? It’s not your fault that your brain evolved to keep you safe and alive at any cost. Your brain evolved to react—without thinking—to keep you safe. We can reprocess and heal your triggers so you no longer overreact in the absence of genuine threat.

I work with clients 12 and up with anger issues uncover what is underneath the anger as well as address belief systems that can lead to behavioral outbursts.

I can help by providing you with the specific tools needed to overcome your pain. Asking for help can be hard, and at the same time it is the first step toward regaining control of your life.

I have worked with clients to successfully resolve anger management issues by connecting triggers to past trauma and providing strategies to recognize & manage negative emotions.

Angry people are often misunderstood. I know the regret and shame that can come after losing your temper, yet again. While anger can bring out the worst parts of us that we usually like to keep hidden, it can also feel good to know that it keeps people from taking advantage or messing with us. Let's try to tame that anger so it feels like you're more in control of it, rather than the other way around.