Couples Counseling

I have experience working with couples. I often utilize the Gottmans Method used to assist couples with gaining insight and identifying their “shared meaning”, what brought them together and their future goals. This has been a successful approach for many couples I work with and has provided insight and tools needed to improve their relationship.

As a licensed Marriage Family therapist, I received masters level training in couples counseling. I also worked at several domestic violence shelters and facilitated batterer's intervention programs, where I taught about "healthy relationships" and how to have a relationship based in respect. Since that time, I have studied the Gottman method. I am most interested in helping couples use mindfulness and positive communication strategies to build a better relationship.

The choice to love another can be a powerful transformative and rewarding choice, but sometimes even the best relationships need some perspective and new patterning over time. The capacity to lean into someone, to trust someone and let them trust you, is one of the most difficult things to learn to do, especially if it is not what you have grown up with or know. Relationships give an opportunity to maintain your own personal integrity, and hold onto yourself while leaning in to intimacy.

Things may seem "fine," yet you may be questioning whether your partnership at present is living up to the promise you originally found in it, whether it's helping you live the life you really want. I focus on helping couples with basically solid relationships find deeper joy and connection by helping them attune more deeply to themselves and one another.

Every couple faces challenges, but with the right guidance, these can be opportunities for growth. At Relationships For Better, our couples counseling focuses on fostering open communication, understanding, and trust. We provide tools and techniques to help partners reconnect, resolve conflicts, and build a stronger foundation for their shared future.

I work with couples and relationship configurations of all kinds to build communication and conflict resolution skills, as well as develop a deeper and more meaningful connection between partners.

Couples may struggle with a variety of issues from communication, to conflict resolution to sexual desire discrepancy to betrayal. I am passionate about helping couples hear each other, manage disagreements and atone for betrayal. I can help couples rediscover the love and desire they had for their partner and to reconnect. Let's explore ways to be intentional about your relationship, to prioritize the pleasure, passion and play in your relationships and your lives!

As a couples therapist, I work with the Gottman Method principles to help couples understand and improve their relationships. We start by identifying current issues and their root causes, then define a healthier relationship vision. I guide couples in developing effective communication and relationship skills based on their goals, using evidence-based strategies to implement positive changes and build a stronger, more resilient partnership.

For 17 years this is my specialty training with; Dr. Gottman EFT The Couples Institute Stan Tatkin Internal Family Systems Esther Perel Terry Real Bill Dougherty I have been married 18 years and survived 6 divorces as a kid. Couples work may be my dharma. It is what comes natural to me. It is the modality I get the most referrals for. I get sent the complex cases after folks have worked with several couples therapists.

I am passionate about assisting clients work on communication and resestablishing trust in thier relationships.

As a seasoned Couples Counselor, Marriage therapist, and pre-marital therapist, I am grateful to have been able to help couples successfully build new stories for their present and future. It is a privilege to assist people from various backgrounds, cultures, and histories to work together toward collaborative change. I am a passionate narrative therapist, but I have 15 years of teaching Couples Counseling to graduates, drawing on other models such as Attachment Theory and EFT.

Developmental Model of Couples Therapy through The Couples Institute Psychobiological Approach To Couple Therapy (PACT) through The PACT Institute, Level II

I have extensive experience in couples counseling, assisting partners in resolving conflicts, improving communication, and deepening their connection. My approach focuses on understanding each partner’s perspective, facilitating constructive conversations, and developing strategies for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

I am excited to help you and your partner(s) learn ways to turn toward connection and explore ways to strengthen your attachment and intimacy with one another. I work with clients on building communication and conflict management skills. I believe that we are able to heal attachment ruptures and rebuild a strong relational foundation. I use emotionally focused therapy to help you and your partner(s) learn to identify and express your emotional experience and needs together.

Couples therapy is focused on relationship. Each partner is asked to own their contribution to the current state of their shared struggle, while working to build more honest, intimate, and beneficial communication skills. This growth stems from risking vulnerability, learning to sit with discomfort, minimizing reactivity, and a sincere desire to listen and grow. As couples therapy requires time and commitment we meet in weekly 75- minute sessions.

We grow in relation to others. Often times our partners hold the keys to our healing if we can only let them in. My job is to help you hold space for each other to embark on a healing journey together.

MYTH: All we need is better communication. TRUTH: Communication is important, but learning how to identify and attend to the deep wounds that drive conflict is the key to breaking toxic cycles and building healthy bonds. OUR WORK TOGETHER: You and your partner will enter a safe space where you will both learn powerful tools for diffusing destructive patterns and increasing vulnerability, empathy, and accountability—the requisites for strong, lasting, deeply satisfying partnership.