Deciding whether or not to stay in a marriage or get divorced can be one of the most difficult and agonizing decisions you face in life. For many couples, this state of limbo (should I stay or should I go) can last months or even years. Discernment counseling is an assessment process that was created to help partners decide between three outcomes: to work on improving the relationship (often with couples counseling), to maintain the current relationship as is, or to get divorced. Unlike traditional couples counseling, which is typically open-ended and can last for years, discernment counseling is generally brief and typically completed in 3-5 sessions. Think this approach could work for you and your partner(s)? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s discernment counseling experts today.
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— Traci Ruble, Marriage & Family Therapist in , CAIf you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.
— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, COI'm a certified Discernment Counselor who helps couples unsure about their relationship's future. Through our sessions, we'll explore the issues that have brought you to this point, and I'll help you to understand the dynamics of your relationship and to make an informed decision about the best path forward. I aim to help you and your partner find clarity, peace of mind, and the confidence to make the right decision for both of you.
— Dr. Tom Murray, Sex and Relationship Therapist, Sex Therapist in Greensboro, NCIf you or your partner are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, Discernment Counseling is designed for you. I will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health or move toward divorce. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable.
— Katrina Kuzyszyn-Jones, Psychologist in Durham, NCIf you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.
— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CODiscernment counseling is a short-term model designed to assist couples on the brink. The goal of this intervention is to develope clarity about the marriage, secure confidence in moving forward, and understanding of the role each partner has contributed to the struggle. These goals are obtained by focusing on three specific pathways: path 1. Remaining in the marriage without change, path 2. Separation or divorce, path 3. Commitment to a course of 6 months of couples therapy.
— Joseph Winn, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Concord, MAFeeling uncertain about your relationship? As a therapist specializing in discernment counseling, I offer a spiritual approach to help individuals explore their feelings and values. This unique method allows you to reflect deeply on your relationship—whether it’s about deepening your commitment, taking a step back, or considering separation—while connecting to your inner wisdom. Together, we’ll navigate your emotions and clarify your path forward with intention and compassion.
— Kimberly Cannon, Licensed Professional Counselor in Conroe, TXSpecifically for couples who are on the brink of divorce. Come to a decision about the future of your marriage. Understand how your marriage got to where it is, as well as each partner's contribution to the breakdown of the relationship. Decide whether or not those contributions can be worked on in couples therapy.
— Allyson Clemmons, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boston, MADiscernment Counseling isn't therapy. The discernment process is meant to provide you with clarity and confidence about a direction for your relationship based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in your relationship as well exploring the possibilities for the future. Discernment counseling is brief- just 1-5 sessions; and goal-directed, meaning there's no time to waste. If you're stuck and uncertain of the future. Discernment counseling can help.
— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TXI am currently getting certified as a Discernment Counselor to serve my clients that find themselves in a space where they need assistance finding clarity on if their relationship is salvageable. When we assimilate early on in relationship it can cloud our judgement of if we selected a mate that is well matched for us. This type of brief therapy (1-5 sessions) is aimed at figuring out if all parties want to forge ahead working on the issues or finding a way to peaceful dissolution.
— Monica Lynne, Sex Therapist in Snoqualmie, WADiscernment Counseling is designed for the couple who is experiencing divorce or breakup ambivalence. The goal of Discernment Counseling is to create greater clarity, confidence, and understanding about how to proceed in making a decision about the future of the relationship.
— Camila Flores, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in San Antonio, TXThis is a specific therapy for couples who are contemplating separation or divorce. You may be unsure about whether you want to stay in their marriage or whether traditional couples therapy can work for you. Each partner may be experiencing different feelings about what to do, and this supports both parties as they work through their feelings (together and individually). Some goals include getting clearer, managing emotions, learning about yourself.
— Laura Evans, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TXDiscernment Counseling is for couples thinking about divorce but don't know if they should. It is a highly structured process that gives them clarity on how their relationship got to where it's at now and points out exactly what would need to change in order to feel happier in the relationship. It asks both partners to take accountability. What I love about Discernment Counseling is how effective just one session can be!
— Corrin Voeller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in St. Louis Park, MN