Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) can help individuals with anxiety or people-pleasing tendencies by guiding them to explore and understand their emotions more deeply. Through EFT, you'll learn to identify the underlying feelings driving your anxiety or need for approval, such as fear or shame. By processing and transforming these emotions, EFT helps you build emotional resilience, gain confidence, and develop healthier, more authentic ways of relating to others and yourself.

Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) is a powerful approach that helps individuals and couples identify, understand, and express their emotions. It's particularly effective in improving communication and emotional intimacy.

I have received advanced training in EFT and use it with all of the couples I see. I use EFT to help couples better understand their unmet needs and effectively communicate them to their partners in a way that fosters deep emotional intimacy. I especially love to help prepare couples for a successful marriage in pre-marital counseling.

I believe that connection and emotional safety are the keys to happiness in relationships. But unfortunately, we tend to become stuck in negative patterns that reinforce disconnection. What we bring to the relationship is formed through our experiences with past relationships and our histories. I help clients to become aware of these patterns and change them. Through this, we can have new healthy interactions and experience more vulnerable communication and connections.

I have completed externship training for both EFT and EFIT.

The core base of my therapeutic orientation focuses on emotions, how we relate to them, what we can learn from them, and how to regulate them.

In 2023 I completed a training in EFT for use in couples. This modality is based off attachment theory and works to help the couple understand what influences their behavior and reactions towards their partner. It creates deeper understanding and meaning in your relationship and gives you the tools to more effectively navigate conflict with one another.

Dr. Parlor is an advocate of EFT techniques in light of relationship stressors. She focuses on relationship first in therapy and recovery.

Utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I'll focus on helping you slow down, name, process, and validate your own emotions. It’s like giving your feelings the time and space they deserve, without any judgment. This approach is helpful in dealing with all the ups and downs of emotions that can often feel overwhelming. We’ll explore how these emotions influence your decisions and actions, so that you can make choices that truly reflect who you are and what you want out of life.

I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to enhance the emotional connection between you and your partner, guiding you both toward a secure and fulfilling relationship. By mapping out your communication patterns, we can work together to identify areas where conflict arises and uncover the vulnerable feelings beneath the surface. This understanding not only deepens your connection but also empowers each of you to contribute to breaking negative cycles, allowing you to grow closer together.

With over 300 cumulative hours of direct training in EFT and over 100 hours of mentorship from the best-of-the-best supervisors in the model, we love this method. EFT is the most evidence-based couples therapy method, with 90% of couples improving their relationship with this method and 75% no longer meeting criteria for relationship distress after treatment. You will learn how to have connecting conversations that keep you out of destructive and painful patterns.

I use EFT to help guide couples and individuals through the process of identifying emotional patterns and fostering secure, lasting connections. Clients benefit from my experience, formal training in EFT, and regular consultations with other EFT clinicians, which help me stay at the forefront of best practices.

Our emotions often tells us what is important to us, what decisions are aligning with our beliefs, and where there is a mismatch between our actions and our goals. I help clients understand their emotions in order to better understand themselves.