Adrian Scharfetter (he/him)

Sexuality and Sexual Health and Functioning Self-Esteem around Sex and Communicating Needs in the Relationship Issues around Sexual Abuse & Sexual Trauma Specializing in Male sexuality and intimacy issues, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation.

Relational psychotherapy, an approach that can help individuals recognize the role relationships play in the shaping of daily experiences, attempts to help people understand patterns appearing in the thoughts and feelings they have toward themselves. I look at how to bring balance back into your relational agreements, explore consent and how it shows up in your relationship (or not), how to help clarify communication, and look at attachment styles.

Humanistic psychology (humanism) is grounded in the belief that people are innately good. This type of psychology holds that morality, ethical values, and good intentions are the driving forces of behavior, while adverse social or psychological experiences can be attributed to deviations from natural tendencies. Self actualization is the key here. With all three of my orientations, my goal is that we work together, and I see you as a human, and someone who shares common goals, aspirations, and desires that a majority of us have. By viewing the 'whole' you and how you relate to your world, I gain a clear understanding and capacity to work with you to create a safe space to do the work together. I am right there with you every step of the way.

Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) combines cognitive behavioral techniques with mindfulness strategies in order to help individuals better understand and manage their thoughts and emotions in order to achieve relief from feelings of distress.

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions. I create a safe, contained space to emotionally and mentally explore your challenges, hopes, and ways to establish a full and healthy sex life and relationship with both yourself and those who you are connected with.

I have extensive work with a variety of ways relationship can be defined in regards to open/non monogamy/ENM and other ways of labeling non traditional relationships. I help you find meaning in your relationship, explore what it may mean by opening your relationship up, or looking at the obstacles that may be present through building trust, safety, grounded agreements, and clear communication/goals.

Highlighting current struggles around men's mental health, sexuality, and physical health in regards to aging, relationship dynamics, and attachment styles. I help break down old patterns that get in the way of a modernized view of masculinity, from a non-toxic perspective without deconstruction of one's masculine sense of self. Emotions and understanding them, how to work with empathy, and how to find vulnerability within your relationships.