Monte Miller (he)

Marriage is the most intimate of relationships and potentially the most hurtful. Infidelity, Porn addiction, sexual incompatibility? These issues can ruin a marriage. I can help bring healing. But many other issues can also interfere with the happiness, especially poor communication and anger management. I try to help both parties feel fully heard and understood, looking for what is good in the marriage and rekindling the old sparks that help start the relationship.

Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

I am a kink friendly therapist with personal and professional experience. I get kink from an insider's perspective, along with the highest training. Please know that you should feel comfortable sharing EVERYTHING but will not judge you. Areas of focus: Poly/Swinger/BDSM relationships, Sex therapy issues, Infidelity, Impotence, Jealousy. Privacy guaranteed. I have first hand, personal experience and knowledge of many sexual issues and kinks. Active in the Swinger and BDSM/kink community.

I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle ("The LIfestyle") for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the

I have been involved in the alternative lifestyles myself for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the emotional waters of getting involved in open relationships. Conquering issues of jealousy and knowing how to, not just battle these fears, but how to use better marital communication to grow the relationship to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship than ever before, is a primary goal for me as a therapist.

Coaching focuses on helping clients stay motivated in pursuit of a specific future goal. Need to help my clients explore and navigate the tough waters of their sexuality, the relationships and their inner self. Encouragement and focus on one's strengths is paramount. A trained psychologist can make an even better coach, understanding the inner workings and fears that can hold us back.

Carl Rogers taught us to value the client, not to look down on them like idiots who do not know what is going on in their own life. Therapists should collaborate with the client with sincere respect. One of the chief cornerstones is genuineness with the client. A sincere relationship, not just a simple paid cold-hearted client.

Our thoughts lead to emotions. We are not helpless victims to our emotions. Yes, some are wired to just be more emotional, depressed, or anxious. But as rational intelligent humans, we have more power in us than we realize. We all have numerous, and often conflicting different voices in our head. However, we are not often fully aware of all of our automatic thoughts and assumptions that end up guiding our emotions in a negative manner. A therapist can help uncover these thoughts.

Hypnotherapy can capture the power of the mind. The mind-body connection is amazing and using the deeply relaxing techniques of hypnotherapy. I will talk you through a slow peaceful series of ques to breath and relax your muscles until you are in a peaceful state. It is then easy for the overthinking brain to stop getting in the way, so that your mind can learn to change as needed. This is effective for treating PTSD, CHRONIC PAIN, PHOBIAS, BAD HABITS, ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION, amongst others.

Are you an Overthinker? Mindfulness can be a great set of ideas and techniques to help calm and quiet the mind, in addition to many other issues. It is similar to CBT but with a little more specific emphasis on increasing self-awareness and being present in the moment, not in the past or the future. It has a deep relaxation element to it, which I have always tried to incorporate into so many areas of therapy and in my own life. It can also be useful for many sexual areas as well.

Have been studying relationships for 30 years. I have done a deep dive in polyamorous relationships, from a professional and a personal standpoint. I get it. No judgments or shame here. I understand the complex nature of poly. I know the benefits of these relationships and also the pitfalls. Good solid communication, trust and self-love are needed for these relationships to thrive.

Have been learning about what it takes to have a good relationship with a romantic partnerships since I was 15 years old. I KNOW what it takes to make a relationship work. I try hard to make both parties feel heard and understood. I will be direct and honest, giving advice when needed, but only after listening fully to both people. I use solution focused and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help as quickly as possible.

I have been seeing an abundance of clients the last several years who are trying to recover from infidelity. I have helped many clients have a better marriage than they did before the affair even started. I have many issues to address with the person who cheated to move forward so that both parties recover However, some couples cannot be reunited, because one party is refusing, or incapable of changing. In these cases, I have to work on helping the non-cheating spouse move forward and recover.

Many, both men and women, have been the victims of sexual, as well as emotional and physical abuse. It can change our views of sex, our self-worth, our relationships, and even view of God, sometimes in unusual and unrealized ways. Many learn to avoid sex or seek it out in harmful ways. No need for shame though. You are safe here to express your deep thoughts that we don't share we anyone and even try to keep from God. You are indeed a victim, but I do not want anyone to stay a victim.

Infidelity and Porn are big issues. But I am more concerned with the marital sexual experiences. Get the relationship and sex right and the other issues are much easier to deal with. Sex is a very pressured filled experience. It is a vulnerable and scary act, though it is intended to be fun and amazing in how it can extend our emotional intimacy, as God intended it to be.

Both the man and the woman need to be equally heard and understood. I focus a lot on how deeply our insecurities and selfishness play a role in how we deal with our spouse. I teach the basics of what love is and how to communicate well. I help uncover the subtle and not so subtle problems of pride and selfishness, but in a loving, but direct manner.